these are my answers....
xactly the same thing has just happend to me :( i was with her 4.5 years and afte a great evening at a family wedding she came out with she dussnt feel the same and our love isnt as strong as it use to be. I i asked why ect and its just making things worse getting her all frustrated. im going to let her have time. I know how hard it is. ive spoken to her eveyday for 4 years to all of a suddern nothing. I hope she changes her mind but its fate.
then this guy.. agreed with him..:
In some ways I agree with perfectgentleman. If your woman says she doesn't love you anymore, give her space. But, you should keep up your appearance: look good, exercise, have fun with friends. How have you changed since the beginning of your relationship? Got a little lazy? If you want her back give her time to see why she fell in love with you in the first place. Don't bug her or ask her why, leave her alone! She needs to see someone she can rely on, financially above other ways. Wait about a month then casually call her to say hello. Ask her if she wants to go out for lunch, not a date! Keep it short, about thirty minutes, then take off. if she wants to stay longer, leave her hanging, show her she isn't the top priority and you have a life. call about a week later, or if she calls sooner, see if you can do it again. NEVER bring up anything from the past! If you start dating her again, and she does the same thing, move on.
Are you Kidding me let me give you the real deal bro,most likely she is young and thats the one of the worst mistake us men make messing with these young girls , who all the want to do is shoot a porn and ride around in a nice car and shop well of course the wont tell you that, they havent made up ther minds about life yet, and if shes is older or young, there is a great chance she is seeing some one else and there offering her something that your falling down on,wither or not if shes already geting it,but if you know your a good man and your doing every thing you can i mean REALLY..i agree with what (Ponungalungb) said just let her go and she will relize what she did,BUT you must not down grade your women get a better one, go to the gym work out keep shaved allways smeel and look good why.??? cuz they will say look.. he is a mess now that i left him.. NO you do it real big look better walk better talk better smile bigger these women feel the can feed you TRASH just because of what is between there legs and when they do that its witch craft to me.. sounds crazy ?? read it again and think hard you will thank me..BE STROUNG ALL OF YOU
I know how you feel, I have just got the exact same today. my girlfriend of 9 months has just left me. I was fine with her all day today, last night we watched titanic together, it couldnt have been better. Now suddenly her friends are more important and she wants to break up. I'm not sure how to deal with it, I keep crying and everything, I do reminds me of her and how we used to be...[ I MISSED YOU TOO....]
I'm in pretty much the same situation as you right now. I'm 18 and my ex (of a few days) is 24. we had been living together. it was a strong love for a long time, spent every minute together, you know? then something changed for her. I could tell but she would keep saying she loved me. I decided maybe she's just down about something and it would get better. Then we broke up. We got back together with us making an agreement we would take a break for a few months and stay together but like, not see each other, a break. So i like this idea (it was mine) and we spent the next 3 weeks together til i moved. in that time, i thought htings were getting better and maybe we could just keep going. I still had to move away. when i did, i called her the next night, she said she didnt think any of it was going to work out and that she had moved on. I was speechless, honestly. she told me she hadnt loved me for a while and she was unable to love (she has some childhood issues and makes it hard for her to trust and love). i thought our relationship had been so strong and everything.
i plead with her, tried to make her see reason.
then today i saw reason. I was being selfish. i shouldnt control her life and she shouldnt control mine. This is when i made a huge turning point in my heartbreak. I realized that if it was meant for us to be together, it would happen and i just had to wait it out. No more emailing 5 times a day, no more calls. I had to give her space to miss me and if she really was in love with me and just couldnt see it, she would come back to me. All you gotta do is give the girl some space to breathe, maybe get their emotions in check, and then if it's right it'l lhappen. Its still hard not to be incredibly sad about it because you remember how you fell in love, the first months, and all that. Yeah, those times were great and you never think it'll happen again, but it most likely will. Dont stew on it or else it'll just eat away at you and give you an ulcer. Memories don't disappear into thin air, and so you can always remember the great great beautiful thing you two had. Maybe write a memoir of the relationship to the best of your memory. write the first time you met and the entire break up and what happened and everythign in between. I think i am gonna do this also
When can i be strong??
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